01/03/25

At 16:36 PT, Venus goes Retrograde (R), asking us to reconsider what we truly value in relationships and reassess our approach to love and finances. Then later, at 22:18, Mercury forms a conjunction with the North Node, creating a powerful opportunity for important conversations that align with your soul's purpose and future growth. These two events together create a cosmic spotlight on communication within relationships and how our thoughts shape our destiny.

With Venus Retrograde and Mercury-Node conjunction happening today, it's the perfect time to do a transit chart. This celestial combination offers a rare window to understand how you're processing past relationship patterns while simultaneously glimpsing your future path. A transit chart now would reveal not just where you might need healing in love and values (Venus R), but also how your mind is being guided toward your highest evolution (Mercury-Node). Don't miss this chance to gain cosmic clarity during this potent alignment!

I've been thinking about my sister's situation lately. She had been dating this guy for about three months, everything seemed perfect with their chemistry, shared interests, and what appeared to be mutual investment in building something real. Then out of nowhere, he sat her down and delivered those words nobody wants to hear: "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now." My sister was blindsided. They'd already been planning a weekend trip together, and she'd introduced him to our parents.

What happened next wasn't her finest moment, but it was deeply human.

Her ego was bruised, and her coping mechanism kicked in, she became defensive and a bit aggressive, sending him paragraphs about his "commitment issues" and how he'd wasted her time. She blocked him everywhere, then unblocked him to send another message, then blocked him again. It was the protective armor going up against vulnerability, trying to reclaim a sense of power when she felt powerless about the situation.

The thing is, beneath her anger was just hurt, the simple pain of rejection and the confusion that comes when someone's actions don't match their previous words. When we feel that kind of emotional whiplash, lashing out can feel like the only way to regain balance. But with some distance, she's starting to see how her reaction was more about protecting her wounded pride than processing what actually happened.

Today's Venus Retrograde is particularly significant here.

Venus going backward is asking us all to examine how we react when relationships don't unfold as we expect. Are we responding from authentic feelings, or are we reacting from ego protection? My sister is now realizing that her aggressive response wasn't actually helping her heal, it was just a temporary bandage on a deeper wound about feeling unworthy or easily discarded.

The Mercury-Node conjunction happening tonight serves as a perfect complement to this lesson. It's highlighting the importance of communication that serves our highest path, even in painful situations. Perhaps the guy my sister was dating was being honest, maybe he truly wasn't ready. While his timing was terrible and his approach could have been more considerate, today's transit reminds us that sometimes people's limitations aren't personal attacks. The cosmic lesson here is about accepting others' boundaries even when they hurt us, and finding ways to express our disappointment that don't burn bridges or create additional karma we'll need to work through later.

As my sister slowly makes peace with what happened, she's learning that sometimes the most empowering response isn't aggression or avoidance, but simply acknowledging the pain, honoring her feelings, and walking forward with grace.